Rise of the Female Breadwinners: Cynthia Muñoz
Published: August 21, 2013
How has your career altered your personal life?
I’m having the time of my life right now. I had such an amusing summer. I went to Mexico City for a Mariachi Vargas concert, then New Mexico for another Mariachi Spectacular, Hawaii, then Ashland, Ore., Guadalajara [Mexico]… These are all exhilarating moments for me. It would be really fun to have a partner who finds these things equally exhilarating, but I haven’t found him yet (laughs).
How has being the main breadwinner affected your relationships? Do Latinos tend to resent the fact that the girl makes more money than them? I mean, are Anglos more accepting?
A friend from Colombia once told me, “You’re American when you want to be and Latina when you want to be.” Of course, I’m both. I’m a gringa in the sense that I’m self-supportive, I love pageants, I do what I want to do. But when it comes to dating, I still like the traditional things to kick in. I like a man to open my door for me or pick up the bill, for them to treat me like a lady. But I think men sometimes—because they see me as successful or independent—feel that they don’t really have to do those things. As far as making more money than them, yes, that can be a problem, but especially in my 20s, when we were less mature. “Oh, my God, she’s beating me… I’m losing the race.” I hear a lot of men tell successful, independent women, things like, “Oh, you must have lots of men wanting to date you!” In my case, they give me that message in a subtle way. Men’s self-esteem can be affected [by a female breadwinner]. I don’t know about American men, because I’ve never dated any gringos (laughs). But chances are the self-esteem issue was there before I even met the guy.
Did you mother work when you were growing up?
My mother is an angel, and she worked around us. She was on mother patrol at the corner of the school. When we were in high school, she was a secretary at the principal’s office. So she worked jobs that were very close to where we were. She’s very much the homemaker type of mom, a very traditional mom. I’m blessed to have her as a mom.
How do you think society views female breadwinners?
I hope we get to the point where we accept whatever makes people happy, whether it is a woman who is passionate about her job or passionate about her children, or volunteering in the community. I hope everyone recognizes that everyone is different and has different passions. As long as you’re doing what you love, it’s OK. With so many women working and being primary breadwinners, it’s time to accept that.
What does “having it all” mean to you? Do you think you have it all?
Sometimes for me, “having it all” means having children and a spouse, a fabulous career, work out, taking care of your house, enjoying fabulous meals… And sometimes I think “having it all” means to do exactly what you want to be doing and being free to do it.
Are you planning to always be the primary breadwinner?
It was never even my plan in the first place. I remember that, when I bought my first Mac, I felt one day I’d be home working on my own little project while my children were roaming around the house. That was my idea of “having my own business.” I never thought of being the main breadwinner at all. But of course, once I started my business it’s been a really fun rollercoaster, and it hasn’t stopped yet.
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