Arts & Culture
Savage Love: Change Agent
Published: December 18, 2013
Do you see where I’m going with this, POPDAQ? There’s something at your place that needs doing—a proposal needs making—and you’re sitting around waiting for him to do it. Why? Because he has the dick.
“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” Mahatma Gandhi said that*, POPDAQ, but I don’t need to tell you, right? Because that quote was at the bottom of your e-mail. So here’s a thought: Be the change you want to see in your own fucking relationship. You want to get engaged to this guy? Propose to him.
Yes, yes: He has a penis, and traditionally the penis-havers do the proposing in Breederville. But it’s not unheard of for someone to make a marriage proposal to a man. Just ask my husband.
* Gandhi did not say that. He said: “If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change.”
** Do not confuse penis-havers with penis-halvers. Something else not to do: a Google Images search on “genital bisection.”
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